Tribe.net. Local Connections http://distanceparenting.tribe.net/thread/97c668d7-d687-4dbe-ac28-4a4e13128b8a 2007-05-07T00:00:01Z 2005-11-17T19:40:00Z

<div>The thing that burns is that my parents (my son's owner's) feel I have nothing positive to give or teach them so I am unnecessary except to pay child support. Where would anyone get ideas like this? Logically, the more people teaching/loving/supporting a kid; the better off that kid has it. <br/> <br/>I live in a great place in a town that was voted one of the top ten best places to raise a kid by home magazine in 2000. Walk two blocks in any direction and there is a park or field or school. This is not an exaggeration. I hold a 3.6 GPA in my JR year at SOUL. The air is clean and the rate of crime and violence is 10 times lower than where they are. They currently live on welfare in rural Oklahoma, neither one of my parents graduated high school. The nearest opportunity for the boys is the local fast food joint about 15 miles away. All I can do is wait for the pressure cooker to blow. An old couple in a trailer with two teen boys. <br/> <br/>I gave those boys up then 8 and 11, because at the time, it was the best thing for them. My herstory was rocky and mom has good reason to be concerned. We were homeless thanks to Oklahoma's "Welfare to Work" Program, my mother’s constant emotional abuse, and my tendency to seek out people just like her as friends and lovers. Not that she was a bad mom, as a little kid she was great to live with. But she has the devil of a time letting us go... She acted then and still does, just like a jealous, passive aggressive ex. <br/> <br/>... Fast-forward five years... Time with me now would be good for the boys. At this time she will not even discuss it. I get its "my way or no way". I have no voice. My mom refuses to believe there is anything good about me. She refuses to even try to know me. It would be nice for her if she did. She would not worry and stress so much. She seems determined to think the worst and if I try to fight her in court, she will bring up every thing I ever did wrong from the age of two. I can’t do that. My inner child would kick my a**. There are some things that are just wrong, taking peoples' children away is one of them, ripping your mother/child up in court would be another one. <br/> <br/>I feel betrayed because when I brought them to her she assured me I could see and talk to them at any time. I did not need a lawyer. That this was only for a few years. I would have found another way if she had not promised me that. They would come home when things changed. I worked hard, things have changed. Now it’s all I can do for phone calls. I rarely can call because the thought of her picking up the phone seems to freeze me up more often than not. I haven't gotten a picture in three years. She never calls me unless she wants to scream at me for wanting to see them or for talking to them or for sending them presents or to tell me how sick and how tired she is. Nothing beats the feeling that your own mother manipulated and lied to you this way, deliberately hurting so many people in my life, "for our own good." Jeesh and I remember when I couldn't wait to turn 18 and be free of my mother, now I can't wait for my sons to turn 18 and be free of her. <br/> <br/>To Adrian, Thanks for the vote of confidence. These days I surround myself with people who can appreciate who I am. I do not tolerate the presence of manipulative dishonest "unavailable" people in my life. I cannot fight my mother without destroying myself financially and spiritually and putting the boys through hell in the process. They are doing well (so I am told) If so, I don't want to rock their boat. So here I am. "Standing in the door holding a cookie." For as long as it takes. That's part of why I like this site, one day maybe the boys will find it and know that the picture my mother paints of me, comes from her own rage at things that happed to her as a child, not who I am. <br/> <br/>Thanks for letting me vent, now I'll go do something easy, like calculus. <br/> <br/>Nikki. </div> <div> posted in <a href="http://distanceparenting.tribe.net">A Parenting from a Distance Tribe</a> - 5 replies </div>

2005-11-17T19:40:00Z leanne (lanny fan) http://distanceparenting.tribe.net/thread/22d409b5-16fd-4af5-96f3-024ff588f9de 2007-05-06T23:51:13Z 2006-05-11T01:08:50Z

<div>Hello im Leanne, and im mother of five children, just wanting to offer <br/>support to anyone who might need it, i was kept from my father and <br/>finally because of the internet found him again when i was about 43, he passed <br/>away jan of 2006, but we got a chance to interact via the net, my <br/>mother kept him away from me and made me feel that my step <br/>father was all i should be thankful for, well it hurt my life tremedously <br/>no matter what the trouble between my parents, i needed to know <br/>my father ...myself, and she thinks she was right but it was wrong <br/>God bless them all and you all <br/>take care now <br/>Love in Jesus <br/>leanne <br/>www.Godspeople.inJesus.com</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://distanceparenting.tribe.net">A Parenting from a Distance Tribe</a> - 1 reply </div>

leanne (lanny fan) 2006-05-11T01:08:50Z eo http://distanceparenting.tribe.net/thread/384b64b6-1fc1-4c23-9362-f24a18eaae5f 2007-04-18T12:06:57Z 2007-04-18T11:54:34Z

<div>Hi there, <br/> <br/>Nice to be here, <br/>I have two boys, 3 and 5, they live in Vancouver with dad, I'm in the Maritimes (Halifax and New Brunswick). It's hard! But they're happy. My philosophy: would choose to have them with me, but would rather deal with pain than drag two happy healthy kids through a ten year court battle. Better to be friends with their father. Right. ????????</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://distanceparenting.tribe.net">A Parenting from a Distance Tribe</a> - 1 reply </div>

eo 2007-04-18T11:54:34Z Candy http://distanceparenting.tribe.net/thread/3c235a24-e265-4af4-916f-9a27632513de 2007-04-12T09:13:11Z 2006-01-12T07:21:03Z

<div>I have the coolest kid with the biggest heart around!! <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>Let me back track and I will explain, a few days before Christmas Ace came to me with something that was bothering her and asked me to help. She had heard about Phoenix, a pet bunny that was doused with lighter fluid and set on fire in the Bay Area last October. Phoenix survived but only after recieving third degree burns and losing both his ears all because some 19 year old sick basterd didn't have anything better to do with his time. For more about Phoenix please go to the San Francisco/Marin House Rabbit Society Home Page at www.saveabunny.com but please read this alone before you share it with a child, it is very graphic and not for little eyes. <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>I immedietly called all my friends and asked for help, of course when I told them this was for Ace everyone volunteered. We decided to hold a bachelor-ette auction with everyone saying they could help or they knew so-and-so who was hot and would do anything for animals/children/fun/ect. <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>So we all picked our jobs and went our separate ways with everyone doing what they do best. The first thing I did was look for a place to hold it. (Thank you Pine Street Bar and Grill for donating your time and space.) The next thing I did was call the House Rabbit Society and tell them what we wanted to do, they were thrilled. <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>Now it was time to put Ace to work, remember this is her idea. Sometimes it is hard to remember she is only 8yrs old as we go around to all the local bussinesses asking for sponsorship and donations but my once shy child is working it like a pro, lol. Every day she gets out of school, comes home and does her homework and then goes to work. Some days we pick up friends before we go out and other times we go alone but we always do the same thing. <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>Here is the drill: <br/> <br/>Walk into local bussiness, ask to see a manager, wait while they find a manager, then Ace gives over the fliers Mommy has printed up with Phoenix's picture and a little about us then answers all the question she can with Mommy filling in some of the details. Then Mommy gets to watch while this little girl charms the socks off of grown men and women who can't seem to help her out enough. <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>Her biggest achievement was her talking the manager of Hooters in Dublin out of $350 in gift certificates including a "All You Can Eat Wings Dinner For 10 People" <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>Each bussiness I take Ace too takes us about 45 minutes and because she hasn't been excused from School while she does this she get's in about three or four stores a day. But that doesn't mean she only works a few hours a day on this. She was bringing home tiny hands full of change every day with stories if how her friends had given up there lunch/pocket money to help Phoenix so I went and talked to her teacher. He rocks too, he let me put in a piggy bank in the classroom so the kids could watch there money combine and grow to help Phoenix and tomorrow I get to go into the classroom and help the kids make art projects to sell at the bunny-fit. They will sell to even if I have to buy every last one of them. I am going into that class on January 30th and telling these kids there hard work and tallent made a difference. <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>I am also sending home with the children letters to there parents explaining what we are trying to do, how we are doing it and how there kids can help. We are also asking anybody with ideas to get ahold of us. I did make one thing clear in the letter though: what makes this special is it is a childs project she is doing with friends, lets keep it that way. <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>This little girl has impressed the H*** out of more then just me. I got a phone call yesterday afternoon from a big company that wants to remain unnamed but when I heard about who they were I immedietly went into a big speach of how this was not my project and this is what is being done by an 8yr old ect. ect. I spoke for about 5 minutes before the lady told me that she had called to tell me the company doesn't fund local charity's but she was so impressed she asked permission for her personally to send Ace a gift. I know what it is but I am not going to tell, it is a suprise for the bunny-fit <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>The biggest suprise to me is the House Rabbit Society asked for a picture they could publish on there web sight of Ace doing some of her work. Please watch there web sight at www.saveabunny.com if you are interested in more of this story. I don't know what they are doing or when it will get done but they are doing something. I think she is special but to have someone else confirm it just makes me so happy. I spoke to Marcy of the House Rabbit Society and we are trying to get Ace and Phoenix together to meet but it will be hard. You see, I don't really drive, I am a small town girl and Bay Area traffic freaks me out but Ace and I have been invited to the Society to see exactly who and what we are working to help. I know meeting Phoenix would mean the world to Ace and I am going to try to make it happen. <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>In the mean time we have a little over two weeks until the bunny-fit so Ace and I will continue to go door to door and bussiness to bussiness asking everyone we meet to help so if you see us stop and say "hi" but don't be suprised if you get handed a flier and asked to help us spread the word. <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>If you have read this and you have any inclination to help please contact me and I will get back to you as soon as possible. There is so much Ace is doing that I just couldn't talk about in here but she is working her little A** off for this. <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>Ace's personal goal is to make enough money that Phoenix can have the surgery he needs on what is left of his ears. They are closing up with scar tissue and need to be surgicly cleaned up so they don't fill with fluid and he can keep the hearing he has left. We are doing good but I am not sure we can do this alone. <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>I am personally asking everyone who reads this, as a Mother and an animal lover, to look into your heart and see if there is anything you can do to help. You may have something that can be sold at auction or maybe you can give a donation or maybe you can show up and suport Ace's cause the day of the Bunny-fit. Anything you can do would be gratefully accepted. <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>This started out as me humoring my daughter but it has turned into so much more. Now my friends and I are making a political statement: <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>CHILDREN DO CARE AND THEY CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE!!!!!!! <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>Ace's Cause, A Bunny-fit <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>January 29th, 2006 <br/> <br/>Pine Street Bar and Grill <br/> <br/>875 Ricon Ave, livermore, Ca 94550 <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>(925) 606-8266 <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/>Thank you for taking the time to read this, <br/> <br/>Ace's mom, aka, Candy <br/></div> <div> posted in <a href="http://distanceparenting.tribe.net">A Parenting from a Distance Tribe</a> - 1 reply </div>

Candy 2006-01-12T07:21:03Z Leslee http://distanceparenting.tribe.net/thread/889d9266-f494-4b7d-8325-da98d2227947 2007-03-18T01:37:43Z 2007-03-18T01:37:43Z

<div>http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-3609599239524875493&amp;q=The+Drugging+Of+Our+Children&amp;hl=en <br/> <br/>http://www.ostrowandcompany.com/film_detail.php?film=The%20Drugging%20Of%20Our%20Children <br/> <br/>The Drugging Of Our Children <br/> <br/>OVERVIEW <br/> <br/>Genre: Feature Documentary <br/>Language: English <br/>Country of Origin: USA <br/>Running Time: 102 minutes <br/> <br/>CAST &amp; CREW <br/> <br/>Director: Gary Null <br/>Co-Directed by: Producer: Manette Loudon, David Chmura <br/>Associate Producer &amp; Legal Affairs: David Slater <br/>Editor: David Chmura <br/>Cinematographer: Derek Ramsey, David Chmura <br/>Writer: Gary Null <br/>Producer's Representative: Ostrow and Company <br/> <br/>SYNOPSIS <br/> <br/>How are large drug companies benefiting from the latest trend of selling powerful psychoactive drugs to America's children? Do these drugs really help our children cure symptoms of supposed mental illness, or do they tend to increase depression, violence, and suicide? Are we really treating the root causes of mental illness, or are we just eliminating annoying symptoms? <br/> <br/>This feature-length documentary examines the alarming growth in the prescription of powerful psychotropic drugs for adolescents and children. Leading experts, as well as Neil Bush, Michael Moore and Gary Null, provide insightful commentary about the growing trend to pathologize the behavior of children, and then require them to take mind-altering pharmaceutical drugs as a "cure." The documentary recounts the national tragedy of Columbine and focuses on the largely unknown fact that teenage shooter Eric Harris was on the psychotropic drug Luvox at the time he and Dylan Klebold took the lives of 13 other students at their high school. Violence and aggression, precipitated by prescribed drug use, is also explored in an unprecedented discussion between Mark Taylor, the first shooting victim in the Columbine tragedy, and Cory Baadsgard, a teenager on Paxil and Effexor who, in another violent incident, took his teacher and 23 students hostage at gunpoint in his Washington high school. The film proceeds to show the dangerous links between psychotropic drugs like Paxil, Luvox, Effexor and Prozac – commonly prescribed to adolescents for anxiety, depression and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) - and the increased incidents of violence, suicide and psychotic behavior often observed in those children and adolescents who are taking the drugs. The film also provides compelling personal accounts, including a mother going to prison and losing her son to government authorities because she refused to give her son psychiatric drugs. Leading medical authorities and mental health professionals speak the unvarnished truth about current increased diagnoses of recently devised mental illnesses and the unprecedented prescription of a host of very powerful psychoactive drugs to "treat" them. Finally, this documentary explores safer, alternative methods for treating childhood mental illness. <br/> <br/>TO SEE THE ACTUAL NEWS STORIES (over a thousand) <br/>http://www.ssristories.com</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://distanceparenting.tribe.net">A Parenting from a Distance Tribe</a> - 0 replies </div>

Leslee 2007-03-18T01:37:43Z http://distanceparenting.tribe.net/thread/cd2805f7-f706-405d-b279-787cff7a1043 2005-11-29T00:46:47Z 2005-11-26T06:12:55Z

<div>Can we put a picture on the tribe icon? Its very O.C. of me I know but the head with the question mark on it makes me wonder where I am. No biggie, just had to say it. <br/> <br/>Thanks :-D <br/> <br/> <br/> <br/></div> <div> posted in <a href="http://distanceparenting.tribe.net">A Parenting from a Distance Tribe</a> - 6 replies </div>

2005-11-26T06:12:55Z bigh http://distanceparenting.tribe.net/thread/a8e7ca64-ed96-4206-821f-149ee0bcf2b4 2005-11-19T06:02:15Z 2004-03-02T03:00:59Z

<div>I am being asked by the CPS of Arizona to take a parenting class before they will return my son to me. Can anyone recommend a place to enroll in a parenting class in the L.A. area?</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://distanceparenting.tribe.net">A Parenting from a Distance Tribe</a> - 1 reply </div>

bigh 2004-03-02T03:00:59Z Carol http://distanceparenting.tribe.net/thread/654ba699-dd26-42c8-a00f-32c007b44fcd 2005-11-19T05:56:14Z 2004-01-19T21:03:56Z

<div>I live in a household in which we are custodial parents of two children and noncustodal of two other children living in other states. Our family tree looks like a bush. <br/>In addition to some other things, we sent magazine subscriptions to the two children who live away from us. One of the other households is friendly and the other is hostile. A call last week told us that one of the children got his first month of 'Sports Illustrated for Kids'. It was only the second time he called us instead of waiting for us to call him. The other child isn't allowed to call us. We decided which ones to order by asking children that are the same age as the ones we were getting magazines for. We need some new ideas for birthdays.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://distanceparenting.tribe.net">A Parenting from a Distance Tribe</a> - 3 replies </div>

Carol 2004-01-19T21:03:56Z Adrian http://distanceparenting.tribe.net/thread/0085b239-bc25-4a02-90ff-1765752d40eb 2005-11-15T05:01:09Z 2005-11-15T05:01:09Z

<div>Well, maybe it's not quite that bad, but...I'm trying to start a new relationship with my 24-year-old son from 1500 miles away. So this is an e-mail and IM kind of thing. I haven't seen him in 3-4 years and can't afford to for another few months or so. Thank God he's reasonably receptive to my efforts and responds in kind. He could just as easily have been all pissed at me or something. His mother wasn't all that easy to live with but I wan't fully present, either. Time has passed and I've done all sorts of personal work and now I'm trying to establish relations with him on...um...whatever basis I can. Of couse I'm his dad in a technical sense, but I don't feel I can approach him like that; like, "you should listen to me becuase I'm your father harumph." I guess it's more a matter of friendship and maybe big brotherhood. But I don't really know how he feels, only that he's been cooperative so far, like I said. OK, so now I'm rambling which means I don't really have anything more constructive to offer at this point - only that I'm glad to have a chance of being supportive for him, even if I don't completely understand or agree with everything he's doing.</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://distanceparenting.tribe.net">A Parenting from a Distance Tribe</a> - 0 replies </div>

Adrian 2005-11-15T05:01:09Z http://distanceparenting.tribe.net/thread/d37bea7e-a22d-4e71-baa6-7f53807ace09 2005-11-11T08:46:38Z 2005-11-11T08:46:38Z

<div>Hello. I have two teen sons. One is 16 and I get to talk to him because hes stubborn like that. The 13 year old is lets just say, strongly encouraged not to contact me. He also seems to be very a very busy guy. <br/> <br/>I had the same problem with gifts so instead I buy, find or make gifts and put them in their room. They know about that room to. Worse comes to worse, I will have almost furnished their first apartments. <br/> <br/>Im happy to find this tribe, thanks for making it. :-) <br/></div> <div> posted in <a href="http://distanceparenting.tribe.net">A Parenting from a Distance Tribe</a> - 0 replies </div>

2005-11-11T08:46:38Z Rob. http://distanceparenting.tribe.net/thread/6477d030-c3df-42ca-9ec1-dbb1a7222438 2004-01-23T06:24:08Z 2004-01-23T06:24:08Z

<div>I am a non-custodial father of a two year old son who lives about an hour and a half from me. I get to see him on my weekends (Sunday, Monday). At first I thought that he would not remember me from week to week, but those fears have been thankfully proven false. I do wish for all the world that I could have daily contact with him, but I can not afford to live near him, nor do I like the area his mother has choosen to live in (not unsafe, just not where I would live). <br/> <br/>I hope this Tribe really takes off. I think it is a great idea, because in order for us parents to support our kids, we need support from those in similar situations, you know?</div> <div> posted in <a href="http://distanceparenting.tribe.net">A Parenting from a Distance Tribe</a> - 0 replies </div>

Rob. 2004-01-23T06:24:08Z